Before I begin phase two of my Society Vs. section, I have to ask that you not think that I’m bashing all the teachings of society. I’m aware there is great reading material, music, movies, and organizations that are helpful and encouraging. What I’m aiming for is to share what I think is bad about society, and be one of the many voices that say it needs to change.
What is the difference between what society teaches and what comes to us naturally? Where society is different from nurture, there is no difference between society and nature. What is natural? Love, sex, anger, revenge. As children, we start out as some of the worst human beings. We lie, cheat, and steal from each other. We also hit and scream. we’re selfish, unkind, and anything bane you can imagine. It’s not until we’re taught morals by our parents that we become decent.
When you think about what you see in media (TV, music, reading material, etc), is being a better person the lesson it is teaching you? I don’t think so. The only thing it’s doing is giving you the option to do the wrong thing or do the right thing. This, of course, comes with a price. You can eat a fatty meal that’s not good for you, but is cheap. However, you can buy a salad and water for twice the price. By buying this line of health food, you lose weight, yet it’ll cost you your bill money. You can go outside and ride your bike and enjoy the scenery. Sitting on your butt with a controller and a pack of Oreos is the other alternative.
Most music is ruining the minds of everyone. Artists are singing about taking advantage of woman (and men), and treating their loved ones like garbage. They mention drugs, money, racism, hate, and meaningless sex. They openly say that this is cool and don’t realize that they’re changing the mindset of those who adore them. Even if you listen to a song because the tune is catchy, you may not know the words or what it’s about. You still hear the words and they feed into your subconscious.
These are just a few examples of the things that we learn as we get older. We’re brought up hating ourselves. we’re being told what we should look like, how we should carry ourselves, what we should wear, and how much money to spend. We’re told the order of our lives: Go to school, go to college, find a job with your degree. Then we date, get married, have kids, go on vacations (that we can’t pay for), retire, and die. But during all of this, we’re judged by others because we don’t live up to the standards that society is setting for us.
We’re pressured by our parents because they are so worried about us not living up to those standards. We’re scared that we’ll make a mistake because according to society, we need to look and be perfect. Then when we have a meltdown it’s for attention, it’s our fault, and we’re childish.
So here’s what I purpose. Let’s stop living up to other people’s standards. We should stop trying to impress people. You eat that cupcake because you want that cupcake. Watch that show because even though it’s not awesome to me, it is to you. Buy your clothes from thrift stores. Not because you can’t afford the designer line, but because thrifting is an adventure. Wear those regular clothes because they look great on you!
If you want to play that video game, do it. However, if you want to go outside do that, too. If someone tries to change you to fit their standards or puts you down because you’re different then you don’t need them. Love is fearless and sometimes that means letting go because it’s in YOUR best interest.
Everyone is important. We all have a purpose. Imagine every person you’ve ever met and how different their lives would be if you never existed. But you do, and that’s why you have to go and live your life without the standards of other people. Let’s focus on what we want and don’t want. Let’s focus on finding who we are. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it’s hard, too. But the reward is happiness and that’s the ending you want.
“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” (1 John 2:15-17)